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Chapter 3 - Anton and the Challenge of Joy
I begged Anton to allow me to meet her again on that next day, in the same place, at the same time, to continue our exploration of the universe of our humanity. I don't know why, but against all expectation she agreed. Anton had nodded when I asked her, and winked ever so slightly. "You are daring, aren't you?" she said. "That is why you can invite me as often as you like, but let me make the arrangements. This time she was waiting for me at the restaurant's lobby. She had ordered a drink for me. "If sex falls out of the framework of grace, people become trapped into orgies of lust, power, domination, slavery, adversity, and whatever else one finds in the sewer of hell," she said as a greeting. Wow! "But when sex unfolds as love based on truth, or even the sublime there is no danger in it that should scare anyone," I replied. "If a man buries his face into a woman's vulva for the sheer intimacy and generosity that is involved, the sexual touching then is primarily about relationships, close relationships, relationships without distance, and the sharing of this kind of relationships, isn't it? If we elevate the quality of grace to ever higher levels, why would the result be a tragedy rather being an enriching part of our spiritual journey that unfolds in the wide sea of relationships in which our spirits blend in profound experience of our singular all-encompassing humanity." She waved her finger at me and began to grin. "Don't take us into uncharted lands," she said with a smile as she handed me the glass of wine that she had ordered. But the smile seemed forced. Also the smile didn't really hide the sense of shock that I saw on her face when I spoke about men putting their face into a woman's vulva. "Should we fear the unknown lands," I countered her. "Sure sex has been abused, but it can also be a wonderland. For a man, simply beholding a woman's vulva can take his breath away and inspire a glowing kind of awe and wonderment. Or at the very least it can get a man just plain excited. But there will always be a warm reaction of some sort in the basis is rooted in an intelligent loving based on a truth that one simply cannot ignore. That's just the way we men are, and the statistics prove it. Unfortunately, our relationships rarely extend to that kind of intimacy. We are far to afraid of the unknown. We are small, scared, and timid. That's why men's relationships tend to become 'flat' and strained." Anton shook her head and now laughed. "Where are you going with that?" she added. I began to smile. "Did you ever have the occasion to venture into a strip club?" I asked her. "If you haven't, you should, and then look at people's faces. You would think they had never seen a woman's vulva before. You'd be surprised how strongly people react to the sight of a woman's vulva and whatever else is sexually attractive. They're touched by something that's rooted in their soul. They find great joy in seeing it presented. They find in it an echo of their soul. It seems to me that these places cater to a need in human relationships that has been sadly neglected in general society. Of course the neglected need is being grossly abused by the commercial operations that exploit it. Nor do these strip places really meet the need completely. But they do tell us that there is an element in relationships that is beautiful and exciting that is being neglected far too much and is swept under the rug." Anton raised a finger at me again. "You are getting pretty daring, Peter," she said, but she said it with a more natural smile now. "I agree, I am daring. But why should we deem it daring at all to talk about something that is so much a part of our humanity that countless people go 'miles' out of their way for it, just to be touched by it in some way, even if it is just in a superficial way and doesn't really satisfy? That's a paradox really that few people are willing to address. I think that even surprises the researchers. I find it sad that this happens, because sex is an element that has the potential to brighten the human experience in a unique kind of way that takes us many leagues towards dissolving the countless forms of isolation that is dragging mankind to its knees into the quagmire of division, adversity, war, and even genocide. Whatever can dissolve the isolation of people from one-another should be welcomed, rather than being shunned, even if its incomplete. It has the potential to make our world rich, and exciting, and beautiful. The way I see it sex can play a role in that, Anton. We human beings are primarily spiritual beings on a journey through a material universe. Love is a spiritual process, and grace is one of its manifests, like joy. They are all expressions of our spiritual being. Sex fits into this spiritual sphere. It's a mental 'fire,' a passion for living, more than a physical thing. We are all sexual by nature. We respond to a wide range of sexual attractions and not just to meet the needs for procreation. We find social closeness in sexual intimacy. We find in it a type of existence without distance that we don't seem to be able to experience in any other way. This puts sexual intimacies squarely into the realm of our spiritual dimension. It renders it as a kind of spiritual processes that brings us together and unfolds with joy. Of course, it needs to unfold with grace, or better yet unfold from a truth that echoes our soul to be a manifest of love and unfold into joy. Without grace there is nothing in it, is there? This means that the key-factor is grace. It enables something that is profound but has otherwise no value. In this sense, there is nothing bad about sex, is there? Researchers tell us the same thing. In inputs the researchers received from sexually active women, the responding women tell us that the enjoyment they derive from having another person's face at their vulva exceeds all other forms of sexual enjoyment by 50% to a 100% in comparison, ranging up to over 400% in comparison with just plain intercourse. So, it is evidently not just the physical thing that is driving the process, is it? When men put their face to a woman's vulva, which most men love to do, there is no physical sexual stimulation involved at all, of the men's sexual organ. The elation is completely mental. It's a closeness that both partners share, that involves aspects that are rooted in the soul or else it wouldn't happen. This means that the statistics can't be interpreted physically. They involve spiritual aspects of human relationships, an intimacy that dissolves the isolation towards one-another and more so towards oneself." || - page index - || - chapter index - || - Exit - ||
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